Are you going to be a guest at a wedding, but you’re not sure what the etiquette is for being a guest? There are so many unspoken do’s and don’ts at weddings, what not to wear, gifting, bringing a plus one, it’s a minefield.
My brother proposed to his partner towards the end of last year and I can’t wait to attend their wedding. They have a lot of planning to do but that gives me plenty of time to find an outfit. I have notice that a lof of clothes retailers now have sections on their websites where they showcase wedding outfits for different guests such as bridesmaids, best men, female guests, male guests, mother of the bride outfits and even outfits specific to different seasons. They’re a great help when trying to find the perfect wedding outfit.
One thing I wasn’t sure about before I looked into it was wedding etiquette, and boy is there a lot of do’s and don’ts to consider. I have shared the main 10 wedding guest do’s and don’ts below. Hopefully, you will find them helpful if you’re going to be a guest at a wedding.
- DON’T wear white. We all know the number one rule. Don’t wear white as a guest to a wedding. The only person who should be wearing a white dress is the bride and we definitely don’t want to upset the bride on her big day.
- DO RSVP. Reply to your invitation as soon as you can, don’t put it to one side and tell yourself you’ll remember, chances are you won’t. The venue and caterers will need to know final numbers before the wedding and if you don’t reply in time you could cause a lot of stress for people trying to fit you in last minute, or you might not be able to attend.
- DON’T assume you can bring a plus one. If the wedding invite has a plus one then bringing someone will be no problem as the bride and groom will have accounted for that extra, but if you bring a guest uninvited it could cause issues because the numbers won’t add up.
- DO arrive early. Although weddings are notorious for running late, you definitely shouldn’t. Try to arrive half an hour or more before the ceremony is due to start so you can allow for traffic and other delays.
- DON’T expect all of the bride and grooms attention. The bride and groom are going to be busy enjoying their special day and will have to spend time with all the guests so don’t feel upset if they can’t spend a lot of time with you.
- DO take lead from what the invitation says when considering what to wear. Does the invitation say formal, smart, themed etc?
- DON’T share photos on social media before the bride or groom do.
- DO buy a gift. It’s customary to buy a gift for the newlywed couple, but don’t take it to the wedding ceremony or reception. The bride and groom will have enough to do and remember without having to take a lot of boxes home so send it directly to their home.
- DON’T drink too much. Okay, we know there’s always that one person that drinks a little too much and ends up needing to be put in a taxi home, don’t let that person be you.
- DO turn off your phone, or don’t take it at all. A lot of weddings now ask people to leave their phones at home, if this isn’t required and you do take your phone remember to turn it off.
Hopefully, this will help you feel more prepared for attending any upcoming weddings, I found the tips useful and will be putting them into practice at my brother’s wedding. If you have any other tips to add let me know in the comments below.