3 decades, the big 3-0, it’s a milestone to be celebrated but also one that can be daunting. Gone are the carefree nights out with friends, you have less free time and you have less disposable income. Although that might all make you dread turning 30 it’s really not that bad and I have come to realise there are some great things about turning 30. I know who I am, I don’t feel the need to please everyone else, I’m happy to do things at my own pace and there are no more pesky hangovers!
I can honestly say even though I’m only a year and a half into my 30s that it’s my favourite decade so far. With age comes an understanding of what’s really important in life, I feel more relaxed about where I am and don’t feel the pressure that I felt in my late 20s. There have been some changes in my 30s which you can read about below but in my opinion, those changes are for the better.
I started looking after my health
My twenties were spent enjoying life and not worrying about my health but as I hit my 30s I started to realise that it’s important to look after my physical and mental health.
I started by improving my skincare regime, in my 20s my skincare regime consisted of a baby wipe to remove makeup and a moisturiser. When I turned 30 I decided it was time to look after my skin and I now have a skincare regime, I use a cleanser, toner and moisturise twice a day to ensure my skin is healthy, I have also been using a moisturiser with SPF to stay safe in the sun.
Knowing how important it is to stay healthy means I also keep up with regular smear tests and the embarrassment I felt having them done in my 20s is replaced with the knowledge that they could save my life. I also regularly check my breasts for any changes and I appreciate how important it is to know my body so I can see any changes.
Life can be busy but lack of time is no excuse, nowadays we are lucky to have the ability to use services such as the LloydsPharmacy Online Doctor where it’s possible to find sexual health advice and even have a checkup from the comfort of your own home. The service provides a quick and confidential service with test kits sent directly to your door, the kit is then returned and results are available in 3 working days with treatment plans also available. Sexual health is another important area and with a great service like this, there really is no excuse to not get checked out if you have any concerns.
I stopped worrying about where I was expected to be and embraced where I am
During my early 20s, I felt comfortable with where things were going in my life and I didn’t feel any pressure to be climbing the career ladder, to own a house, to start a family etc but as my 30s approached I started to feel like I was missing these unspoken goals. As each year passed I felt like I wasn’t where I was supposed to be wherever that was…
When I turned 30 I took some time to evaluate my life, where I am, how I feel about it all and you know what.. I’m happy with what I’m doing and where I am in life. Yes there are things I thought I would have done by now but there’s also a lot of things I have done which I never dreamed of doing and I have come to accept that life isn’t a race. I also stopped comparing myself with siblings/friends and realised that everyone’s journey is different, this realisation has let me relax and let life happen rather than constantly worrying about if I’m keeping up with the Joneses.
Nights out were swapped for relaxed evenings in
In my early twenties I loved hitting the town with friends and enjoying a night on the dancefloor, the hangovers never bothered me much either. As each year of my 20s passed the draw of a night out in town had started to fade and slowly but surely my interests started to change with nights out become few and far between. Now, in my early 30s, I have swapped nights out for weekends in and honestly, I couldn’t be happier. As I hit my late 20s my ability to bounce back from a hangover diminished and the two days it took to recover from a night out didn’t seem worth it any more.
My friendship group changed
Friendships change all the time and something I found as I approached my 30 was that occasionally friendships grow apart, people move, priorities change, time becomes a rare commodity and time with friends is swapped for time with family. It’s a natural progression and I have found that although my circle of friends has changed the friendships mean a lot.
I made time for hobbies
In my teens and early 20s I made a lot of time for hobbies I enjoyed, horse riding, drawing, trips to the cinema there always seemed to be plenty of spare time to enjoy some downtime but as my 30s approached my free time seemed to be dwindling and hobbies fell to the wayside. This year I have decided to make more time for hobbies I once enjoyed, being self-employed means I worked a lot and I’m always thinking about what I could be doing so I don’t really enjoy much time out. I realised this needed to change and that I should be enjoying my hobbies so I have recently started horse riding again and I’m loving finding my passion again. Not only is it good to have time doing something I enjoy but after a riding lesson I feel invigorated and ready to do some work again, it really is amazing what a little bit of time out can do.
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