Losing a loved one is absolutely devastating and nothing can quite prepare you for everything that you’ll go through. Anger, sadness, frustration and guilt are all common symptoms of grief. But then there’s also the fear of forgetting certain things about them; their laugh, their voice, all the good times that you shared together. However, there are plenty of ways to make the memory of someone special live on forever, so here are five different ways to remember your loved one.
Plant a tree
One great way to keep the memory of your loved one alive is to plant a tree to remember them by. This could be at home in your own garden or somewhere particularly important to your loved one where they liked to spend their time. Maybe they had a favourite park they used to visit or a walk they used to go on? You could speak to the council or landowner and get permission to plant one there. There’s something special about watching something grow, knowing what significance it has. And, of course, it’s great for the environment too.
Make a memory cushion or quilt
A really personal way to remember someone very close to you is to have an item of their favourite clothing, such as a shirt or dress, turned into a memory cushion or quilt. The creative among you could do this yourself. Alternatively, there are a number of small business out there who can make them for you. It’s a unique and novel way to keep your loved one close to you.
Make a photo collage
One of the more traditional ways of remembering someone who’s passed away is to create some kind of photo collage to help you to remember all the good times that you had together. This could be one big framed collage of all your favourite photos or a modern collage wall of different frames in your house. A photo collage is also a great idea to make in time for the funeral too, so others can share in the memories too.
Plan an event
If your loved one was part of a local team or group, such as a football club or choir, it could be a lovely idea to plan a special event to commemorate them. This is an especially good idea if there’s a particular charity associated with your loved one which you’d like to raise some money for or awareness of. Events such as these can often be incredibly successful, so who knows, it could turn into an annual thing?
Have a memorial
One of the more common ways of remembering someone is to speak to your local funeral directors about having a grave, memorial or even something like a bench erected in your loved one’s memory; somewhere that you can visit and be alone with your thoughts. If your loved one was cremated, this could also be somewhere that you spread their ashes, should you choose to do so. If you don’t want to spread their ashes, but want to keep them close to you, why not have them made into a piece of jewellery?
Everybody remembers their loved ones differently, but here are just a few ways to help you keep their memory living on.