When we are considering places to live, we tend to ask ourselves the same questions. “Can I afford it?” is the most obvious one. “Does it work with how my life is at the moment – what’s the commute like? Do I know the area?”
Then there is the kicker: “can I see myself living here?”
For many of us, it’s this one that is the decider. It’s based more on intuition than fact; on a feeling, a sense we get over whether somewhere is going to be suitable.
Yet for all we may ponder over the question, there is no way of knowing before we move in if a home fits us. In some ways, this is quite bizarre. Think of how we agonise over the clothes we buy or the skincare products we use; they are small investments, but we ensure we try them on, test them out. Our home – the biggest purchase we will ever make – doesn’t have that luxury. We are less informed in the 21st century when buying our home than we are deciding on a lipstick colour.
It’s quite scary, really. Especially if you find yourself living in a home that doesn’t work for you. It might have looked fine on paper, great on the viewings, but after living there for a spell… something isn’t right. It doesn’t fit. How do you cope with that? There’s no 30-day return policy; you probably can’t afford to move again and go through the same level of stress. So what’s next?
Step One: Ascertain The Problem
- There are a variety of reasons a new home might not work for you. See if any of the below sound familiar:
- There is less access to natural light, and it seems to be damaging your mood.
- There is a lot of creaking and other spooky sounds at night, which are disturbing your sleep.
- Problematic neighbours can be a factor.
- You have a health condition – such as poor mobility – that is proving more difficult to handle.
- Your children, partner, and/or pets don’t seem to be settling.
When you know the issue, you can move on to the next step.
Step Two: Rectify The Problem
Looking for changes you can make to your home is a lot easier than moving again or just suffering in silence.
Think outside the box as to how to solve things. If you’re suffering from lack of natural light, more mirrors and brighter furnishings can help. If your health is being compromised, a walk-in shower or Raise Lift Services Ltd might be able to make things more accessible. Unhappy family members may need to speak to a therapist, as the problem is more likely to be change than anything to do with the house.
Step Three: Give It Time
Sometimes, this is all you can do. Hopefully, there will be a sense of empowerment from knowing where the issue comes from and trying to fix it. A lot of teething problems vanish after six months, as you adjust to the new situation and find ways to compensate. If the six-month mark comes and goes, however, then you may need to consider moving on.